Wednesday, May 24, 2017

Wise Woman Linkup!




A Wise Woman Builds Her Home is a place to be encouraged in your high and noble calling of role of wife and mother and daughter to the King and we want to encourage each and every single reader out there to build up strong Christian homes to the glory of God.

"Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing. " 

1 Thessalonians 5:11

We would love for you to link up with us! Come and share your posts on building up your home, homemaking, character, hospitality, femininity, family, tea, recipes, parenting, marriage, homeschooling, and whatever else you'd like to share that would encourage our community. Feel free to also share more than one post!

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Monday, May 22, 2017

What to Do When You Have Trouble Making Friends





"I am having trouble meeting and keeping new friends, I try to reach out to others, even having them over or texting them but it doesn't seem to work, my efforts seem to be in vain--even with ladies in my church!  I see everyone around me having friends and having fun. I am feeling lonely and depressed and don't know what to do anymore."

I know this is a huge struggle for many women--so much more than we think.

There was recently a big discussion in our Titus 2 group on this topic and the response was overwhelming!

So today I wanted to tackle this topic from a biblical perspective and hope that you find it helpful.

Here are some practical tips that were shared that might help you during this season:


Pray and ask God for a friend - Every time I have prayed and asked God for a good friend, He has always brought a wonderful godly woman into my life. I am so grateful for them because they have made a huge impact in my life in so many ways.

Embrace this season with just you and God - When you are waiting for God to bring friends into your life you might realize that God might be using this time to draw you closer to Him. Remember, that He is your best friend and loves you very much. Talk with Him, spend time in His Word, and lean close to Him because only He will fill the void that friendships cannot. Friendships are limited but God's love is not. Only He can love us the way we truly need to be loved!

Pour into those relationships around you - Many times we put such an emphasis on having friends we forget to pour into those very important relationships already around us. Spend time with cultivating those relationships, even with extended family members and pour into their lives.

Be understanding towards others - Many women are going through different seasons in their lives. Some are super busy with family and little children while others might be going through hardships. Know that everyone is going through something different and not just purposefully trying to ignore you.



Understand your season - You might not have a ton of friends like you did in high school but you do have little children now to raise who need you 24/7. Or maybe you have been ill or taking care of an elderly family member. Your season can affect your friendships so be aware and take necessary steps as needed. Give yourself grace while you try to reach out to new friends.

Be forgiving - Sometimes you have really given your all to connect with women and you will still feel rejected. Sadly, this can even happen in church! The best thing you can do in this situation is not to become bitter or resentful towards anyone, just be forgiving, move on, and be sure not to take it personally.

Be content -  It is hard to find good friends and you will probably only have a few close friends your entire life. Don't become discontent by thinking everyone else has friends (you'd be surprised, so many women are gong through the same thing you are!). Don't let social media get you discontent either, keep your focus on God and what He wants you to do. Take a break from social media if you find it a source of discontentment.

Be patient - God's timing is best, use your time wisely while you wait! And remember not to need people more than you need Him.

Use hospitality - Invite people into your home. This is one of the best ways to connect with others. Learn how to do it in a way that keeps it easy and blesses those who come. Have pizza and play games, Have toys in baskets to bless little ones visiting and for easy cleanup.  Don't get upset if it is not reciprocated, just keep moving forward! It takes time to build good relationships, they don't happen over night. I wrote a whole chapter on Christian hospitality in this book here with some friends if you'd like to read more!

Look twice - Sometimes we are looking for friends in wrong places--sometimes a really good friend may be right under our noses trying to get our attention or the quiet gal in the corner. You never know when or where you will find a gem of a friend who is loyal and true. Sometimes joining a Bible study or helping in a ministry can lead you to meet godly women. Don't forget that people in your neighborhood who don't know the Lord need friends too!

Love the friends you do have - If you do have friends, remember to remain a good friend to them by continuing connecting with them somehow. You can text them, invite them over, bless them with a small gift, go out for coffee, or even snail mail them a card! Just show them some love so they know that you haven't forgotten them!

Be grateful for what you do have - Remember that you don't need a whole pack of friends to be richly blessed. Sometimes it is best to just have a few good close friends who are godly and encourage you. And don't take those who are already around you for granted--they are a gift from God and you are richly blessed for having them!


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Thursday, May 18, 2017

5 Ways to Plan for the Summer {& Really Get Things Done!}



These past few days I have been doing what I do best---list making!

I am dreaming about summer and looking forward to the school year ending to soak up some sun, relax and just be!

Through it all I know I want to tackle some things around here so I have been doing some serious planning.

I am the type of person who always has something going so it is better if I make a list, it helps keep things orderly and out of my brain. I do most of my planning on my iPhone app which makes it easy to make changes and add things since I usually have it on me or nearby.

Here are 5 areas that I am planning for right now:

FUN THINGS I WANT TO DO

This includes trying new recipes, purposeful relaxing, outings, beach visits, books I want to read, fun projects I want to tackle (like making photo books for the kiddos,--when you have nine children this is not an easy feat! I have been thinking about trying Shutterfly), places I want to visit, plans for holidays, birthdays, etc. As well as blogging goals that I want to accomplish.  I also make sure to plan in lots of down days to enjoy with the kiddos too!


BOOKS I WANT TO READ

This summer I am looking forward to getting some new reading in. I am super picky about what I read since I don't like wasting time on books that I don't feel that I glean much from. I am not one that feels obligated to read a book cover to cover once I start it either. I usually keep a running list in my Amazon's Wish List so when I check out I can easily add them to my cart.  I am also probably going to make a summer reading list for the children too. Here is a good one for boys and for girls if you want or need some wholesome recommendations.


THE GARDEN

I might just need to do a whole separate post on this later but I love planning for the garden. I am so grateful to always have children who enjoy helping out. It has brought so many memories and they always look forward to it.  This year I planned which day we will start and made a list of all the veggies we will buy. Sometimes I would have the children help me with this and even sketch out where we would plant everything.  I can't wait!



(My lettuce from last year)

HOME PROJECTS

It seems that every summer we usually need to:


  • clean out the garage
  • basement
  • organize the children toys and rooms
  • switch to summer wardrobes 
  • tackle painting projects (this summer I am going to assign my oldest son to do this inside of my pantry)

I also add anything extra that needs attention too, summer is a great time to tackle these types of projects. This year we have a new 15-foot pool to install, it should be fun!


HOMESCHOOLING

I usually try to tackle preparing for a new homeschooling at the more towards the end of summer usually in August. I take the time to:


  • look through curriculum
  • purchase books
  • organize and prep our homeschooling areas
  • buy school supplies
  • plan out goals to accomplish the following year

I like list making because it helps me to achieve what might not get done in the lazy days of summer --to actually stick to my goals and get things done!

I hope this post was helpful in helping you to think about and plan out your summer!




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Wednesday, May 17, 2017

Wise Woman Linkup!




A Wise Woman Builds Her Home is a place to be encouraged in your high and noble calling of role of wife and mother and daughter to the King and we want to encourage each and every single reader out there to build up strong Christian homes to the glory of God.

"Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing. " 

1 Thessalonians 5:11

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Tuesday, May 16, 2017

How to Give Biblical Advice in a Loving Way




Did you ever have someone ask for advice and you were not sure how to answer?

Or did you ever hear someone give advice that definitely wasn't the best?

We all know that there is good advice out there and bad advice but we want to make sure that we are always giving advice the best way that we can.

Here are a few tips to help you:


PRAY - Do this before you answer if you need to and don't just act on emotions. Ask God to give you His wisdom before you proceed.

THINK FIRST - Does it line up with God's Word? In order for us to know this, we need to know His Word and be in it. We don't want to give just our opinion on how we "feel" about the situation because it might not be correct.

Our emotions can get the best of us and we might give out advice that is not biblical. This confuses everyone and even other people indirectly. This is why it is so important to study God's Word correctly so we don't misuse it.

DOUBLE CHECK - Ask yourself, is this the whole counsel of God on this subject? Sometimes I have heard one part of Scripture being emphasized while neglecting the whole counsel of God. We need to make sure we fully know what God's heart is on a subject we can give a better answer.

IF YOU DON'T KNOW THE ANSWER - If you don't know the answer to the problem you can direct them to go a pastor or Christian counselor (they are trained and have tons of experience that they can offer) or older godly person for help.





A few thoughts on what NOT to do:


  • finger point
  • call names
  • get angry/lack of self-control
  • make quick false assumptions
  • be prideful
  • manipulate
  • think we are better than them





When we do give advice we need to give it with:

LOVE: We need to speak the truth in love, and remember what it is like to be in another person's shoes. Kindness, respect, gentleness, and patience can go a long way than name calling and finger pointing or jumping to conclusions. We always want to assume the best and point them towards God.

MERCY: We are all sinners and imperfect. We all need a Savior. Let us show the same mercy to those around us.

HUMILITY - Be humble, gentle, and wise as you share advice, it is much harder to hear from someone who is prideful or is a "know it all". You want to bring the person closer to God to be restored and get them back on the right track!

Sometimes we might not know how to answer someone and you might just want to pray with them instead. That is okay too--and don't forget to pray for them throughout the week as well and ask God to continue to work in their life even when you don't see them.

In addition to your Bible here is another very helpful book to help in counseling women:




I hope it is a blessing to you!



We hope this list was helpful to you as you help others when giving them advice!



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Friday, May 5, 2017

Satan, You Can't Have My Family



The other day I shared a popular post on our Facebook fan page and a sweet mom shared:

"I said to God the other night - " Lord, I feel I am fighting a battle I can't win with my children ". They are in mainstream school (nearly teenagers), everywhere I look there's bad influences - tv, school, games, even books being read in English lessons at school! I feel overwhelmed at times. I wish I could afford to send them to a Christian school."

But whether you have your child in a public school, Christian school, or homeschool that battle can still remain. And we need to fight for our families!

Like I mentioned in the popular post that was shared:

"Dear parent, did you know?

There is a battle. A war that is going on this very minute.

A battle being waged for the souls of your children.

It is in the spiritual realm...you cannot see it.


But it is there. "



The Bible informs us:

"Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour." 1 Peter 5:8

"The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I cam that they may have life and have it abundantly." John 10:10



This goes for the rest of our family too--and we need to:


  • PRAY - lift up all our needs and concerns to Him because He knows and don't forget fasting too.

  • LOOK TO GOD'S WORD - what does His Word say about my family?

  • TAKE ACTION - don't stand by idly but take action! Whether we need to show more love and compassion to our family members or steering our children away from bad influences, we need to not grow weary or give up--but take it to the Lord's feet and be strengthened through Him.


The three areas of importance are:


1. OUR HUSBANDS - It is easy to put our husbands on the backburner and neglect his needs (especially if you have children). Our marriages are important and need to be protected.

An excellent wife who can find?
She is far more precious than jewels.
The heart of her husband trusts in her,
and he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good, and not harm,
all the days of her life.

~Proverbs 31:20-2

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself it's Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. 

~Ephesians 5:22-3



2. OUR CHILDREN - We might see areas that need work or can be improved in our children's life and we need to be diligent to make the changes for them. Sometimes that change begins with us and how we parent. Are we being too permissive, are we turning a blind eye to sin, etc. Whatever it is make sure to pray and ask God to show you what needs to be done and HOW it should be done.

"Train up a child in the way he should go'
even when he is old he will not depart from it."

~Proverbs 22:6

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.

~Psalm 127:3

"Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. "Honor your father and mother" (this is the first commandment with a promise), "that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land." Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord."

~Proverbs 29:15








3. OUR EXTENDED FAMILY - Is there contention or strife in this area? We need to show love to our extended family even if it is hard or whether we think they deserve it or not. God did not say that we would live a life of comfort and ease. Taking up our cross and loving extended family is commanded.

"A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another."

~John 13:34-5
Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent His only Son into the word, so that we might live through Him. In this is love, not what we have loved God but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also out to love on another..."

~1 John 4:7:21






Dear friends, our prayer for you today is for your family.

Don't get discouraged--

Don't give up --

 and don't grow weary!

FIGHT FOR YOUR FAMILIES!


He will guide you with His wisdom and give you strength!






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Wednesday, May 3, 2017

Wise Woman Linkup!




A Wise Woman Builds Her Home is a place to be encouraged in your high and noble calling of role of wife and mother and daughter to the King and we want to encourage each and every single reader out there to build up strong Christian homes to the glory of God.

"Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing. " 

1 Thessalonians 5:11

We would love for you to link up with us! Come and share your posts on building up your home, homemaking, character, hospitality, femininity, family, tea, recipes, parenting, marriage, homeschooling, and whatever else you'd like to share that would encourage our community. Feel free to also share more than one post!

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